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How to Gracefully Interrupt Ramblers in a Social Setting

We’ve all been at networking events or dinner parties where someone just keeps going on and on with their stories. Here are seven tips to help you interrupt a rambler gracefully.

Seven Tips to Gracefully Interrupt Ramblers

  1. Insert Your Own Story
    If they keep talking about their recent travels, you can say, “Oh, that reminds me of a trip I just made,” and see if they pause and let you speak.
  2. Avoid Affirming Body Language
    Stop nodding unconsciously, as it signals interest. When you stop, they may notice and pause to check in with you.
  3. Raise Your Hand
    If stopping the nodding doesn’t work, physically raise your hand to indicate you want to say something.
  4. Announce Your Intent to Comment
    Say, “I’d like to comment on that. Before I do, I want to check my understanding,” and refer to some of their points before making your comment.
  5. Invite Others to Join the Conversation
    In a group setting, invite someone else to share their experience. For example, “I’d love to hear what you have to say, [Name].”
  6. Change the Topic
    Use a segue like, “You’re making me think about something else. Do you mind if we change the topic?”
  7. Make an Excuse to Leave
    If all else fails, politely excuse yourself by saying, “I need to go talk to [Name]” or “I need to check on something.”

I hope you found these tips helpful. If you did, please click like and share this post. For more on the topic, watch our video explainer.

Happy Networking!

How to Gracefully Interrupt Ramblers at Work

Navigating conversations with colleagues who ramble can be challenging. Here are eight tips to help you interrupt ramblers at work gracefully.

Eight Tips to Gracefully Interrupt Ramblers at Work

  1. Share a Related Story
    If they’re talking about a difficult project, you can say, “Oh, I have a similar experience.”
  2. Avoid Affirming Body Language
    Stop nodding, as it may unconsciously signal interest. When you stop, they may notice and pause to check in with you.
  3. Raise Your Hand
    If stopping the nodding doesn’t work, physically raise your hand to indicate you want to say something.
  4. Help Them Get to the Point
    They might be verbal processors. Help them by saying, “I just want to check for understanding. Is this what you’re saying? Yes or no?”
  5. Invite Others to Comment
    In group meetings, invite someone else to share their thoughts. For example, “I’d really like to hear what [Name] has to say about this topic.”
  6. Remind Them of Time Constraints
    Say, “I just want to do a time check. We only have 10 minutes left and need to get to the other agenda items.”
  7. Suggest a Topic Change
    Use a segue like, “You’re making me think about something else. Do you mind if we change the topic?”
  8. Ask for More Time to Think
    Say, “You’ve clearly done a lot of thinking about this. I need more time to think on my own. Can we return to this later?”

I hope you found these eight tips useful. If you did, please click like and share this post. For more tips, check out our video on interrupting ramblers in social settings and more on our blog.

Simplify Your Life and Embrace Spring Cleaning

Decluttering and embracing spring cleaning by letting go of unused items can make a significant difference in your life. Here are some practical tips to help you get started.

Two Major Categories of Unused Items

There are two major categories of unused items:

  1. Sentimental Items: Things we keep for emotional reasons.
  2. Useful Someday Items: Things we keep because we think we will use them one day.

Step 1: Compile and Photograph

First, compile all these unused items and take a photograph. This will be your “before” picture.

Sentimental Items: Questions to Ask

Let’s start with the items you’re holding onto for sentimental reasons. Here are three questions to ask yourself:

  • Does this item evoke positive memories for me?
  • Who would want this item if I were to pass away suddenly?
  • Do I need to keep the physical version, or is digitizing it or photographing it sufficient?

Useful Someday Items: Questions to Ask

Now, let’s move on to the items you’re keeping around because you think you will use them one day. Here are five questions to consider:

  • When was the last time I used this?
  • When do I think I will use this again?
  • Can I give this to someone else who will use it now, and borrow it as needed?
  • Can I use it one last time and then throw it away? (I often do this with clothes that are on their last legs—check out my video on travel smart for more details.)
  • Would this item be better used by someone else if I donated it to charity?

Step 2: Eliminate and Photograph

After sorting through your items and eliminating some, take a photograph of the “after” pile.

Feel good after doing some organizing at home? If you found these cleaning hacks useful, share this post.

Happy Spring Cleaning!

Travel Smart: Essential Tips for Packing Light and Enjoying More

I am a firm believer in minimalist travel, focusing more on the experiences you’ll have rather than the items you’ll pack. This approach allows me to travel with just a carry-on. For example, during a 30-day trip across five European cities, which included several formal events, I managed the journey with one carry-on and even returned with less than I had brought. Here are six tips for traveling smarter and lighter:

  1. Save nearly empty toiletries like toothpaste or floss for your trips. Use them up during your travels so you won’t have to bring back the containers.
  2. For shorter trips, pack just enough lotion in a contact lens case. These cases are small, waterproof, and perfect for portioning out small amounts.
  3. Wear clothes that are nearing the end of their lifespan, like socks with holes or stained shirts. You can wear them one last time on your trip and leave them behind, lightening your load for the return journey.
  4. Choose versatile clothing that can be worn multiple times without picking up odors.
  5. Opt for layerable pieces such as scarves and sweaters, which can help you adjust to different temperatures and change your look.
  6. Bring a pair of versatile shoes. I prefer running shoes for active days and travel, and ballet-style Crocs which are light, dressy enough for formal occasions, and waterproof—ideal for unexpected rain.

I hope these tips help you travel lighter and enjoy your adventures more.

#1 Curiosity with managing municipal government with Joe Todd

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Join Dr. Julie Pham as she has an insightful conversation with Joe Todd, a longtime public servant and the Deputy City Manager at the City of Bellevue. Joe is also the vice chair of the African American Commission for Washington State. In this episode, Joe shares his journey, experiences, and the values that guide his leadership style.

✨ Episode Highlights:

  • Building and nurturing enduring relationships at work
  • The importance of empathy and love in leadership
  • Navigating challenges as an African-American executive leader
  • The significance of transparency and clear communication
  • Fostering a culture of curiosity and continuous improvement

Joe reflects on his career, the influence of his parents, and the importance of being self-aware and authentic in the workplace. He offers valuable insights into how leaders can support their teams and create inclusive environments.

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Produced by Titan Media Worx: This episode is part of “Curiosity at Work,” a podcast that delves into the journeys of inspiring leaders and the values that drive them. Stay tuned for more episodes featuring conversations that explore the intersection of leadership, empathy, and curiosity.

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Saying Goodbye

As I mentioned in an earlier newsletter, CuriosityBased’s head of marketing, Mikaila Culverson, will be saying goodbye to us at the end of this month. I’ve been so impressed by how much Mikaila has accomplished during her time with us, including leading a revamp of our website, teaching herself marketing analytics, helping create a brand new digital course, spearheading our new Curiosity at Work podcast, and managing this newsletter. One of our most popular newsletters “Sometimes you gotta rest to get stronger” is still of Mikaila recounting what she learned from training for a race. I’m bragging about Mikaila because I know she won’t do it herself. Mikaila embodies the spirit of being a “learn-it-all.” The team has been telling her for months how much we’ll miss her.

People rarely get a chance to say goodbye in their own words. To share what’s next, I invited Mikaila to tell her own story:

After three years with the CuriosityBased team, it’s time for a new chapter. This transition is bittersweet – I’m excited for what’s next, but will deeply miss the CuriosityBased team and the sense of connection and care we’ve built together.

Back in 2021, I joined as an MSW intern and immersed myself in CuriosityBased’s philosophy. The practice of curiosity has influenced both my professional and personal relationships in incredible ways. One of the most impactful moments was when I first participated in our Explore Success workshop. It completely changed how I think about success and emboldened me to set a new path for myself to pursue interests beyond my traditional training. Years later, I had the privilege of facilitating that same workshop twice for our community, helping others explore what success looks like and feels like for them.

As I step into my new role leading a team of social workers and counselors in the Puget Sound, I carry with me all the lessons and values from CuriosityBased. For the future, I hope success continues to feel like freedom, creativity, and fun. I aim to create spaces similar to CuriosityBased wherever I go, where opportunities to practice curiosity are encouraged and success is how you define it.

This farewell is emotional but also filled with gratitude. The CuriosityBased community has left a lasting impact on me and I’m eager to apply my learnings in new settings. Thanks for being a part of this journey. Here’s to the future, with all its possibilities!

If you’d like to send your best wishes to Mikaila, feel free to respond to this email.


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